How dictatorial are each of us?

Who are above us in power? Teachers, ministers, the police, politicians, our bosses, etc. Yet, who do we really defer to? In our hearts I mean, not because we have been blinded. (I know the argument can be made that politcally speaking many people are willingly blinded etc. I am refering to what we know. What we think about. What we do perceive individually.)

Do we truly bow to each person of power or do we spend the majority of our lives with our own thoughts, seeing things through our own filters, seeing others not as beneath us but as well..not us. This isn't a fully thought out idea but was something I wanted to put down...

...then when those in power do exercise that authority we might listen and respond, grudgingly perhaps, but then go back to being kings or queens? argh.. thoughts?