Up and coming
**edited on Aug 20** < I had the link to the Old Mill very very wrong!
Just over 1 month to go before the wedding!
Am I excited? Sure am! The details seem daunting but good planning and a will attitude to laugh at what really doesn't matter have helped. On Monday Suze and I are meeting with our minister and his assistant, plus the Best Man, Matron of Honour and our coordinator. (main contact for the wedding day to the Old Mill)
We are going to draw up as much of a time line as we can etc. That should help cement the plan for the day and will relieve any stress everyone thinks we should really be feeling!
I find that (probably like when having a baby) when talking about the wedding plans or the marriage in general people at times stop thinking rationally. They run off every cliche they can think of, offer the most ridiculous thoughts about what Suzy and I are thinking (people who don't know us) etc. It's funny when people share their deep thoughts on relationships and you sit there listening and realizing that though their life is horrible, (and that they feel they have a need, nay a right) they demand that you must be going through the same thing. To allow themselves to concede that things could have gone any other way (other than badly at the wedding or after with the marriage) seems like it would destroy them. So they stake out their position on this subject and fight... I guess with themselves mostly.
Maybe some don't understand what I mean but it's sorta like this: imagine your parent always telling you that your girl/boy-friend will cheat because their husband/wife did. Using only that logic.
Ugh.
But lest you get the wrong idea, things are fine! I just find this interesting and post worthy. I like analysing motivations... ;)
Just over 1 month to go before the wedding!
Am I excited? Sure am! The details seem daunting but good planning and a will attitude to laugh at what really doesn't matter have helped. On Monday Suze and I are meeting with our minister and his assistant, plus the Best Man, Matron of Honour and our coordinator. (main contact for the wedding day to the Old Mill)
We are going to draw up as much of a time line as we can etc. That should help cement the plan for the day and will relieve any stress everyone thinks we should really be feeling!
I find that (probably like when having a baby) when talking about the wedding plans or the marriage in general people at times stop thinking rationally. They run off every cliche they can think of, offer the most ridiculous thoughts about what Suzy and I are thinking (people who don't know us) etc. It's funny when people share their deep thoughts on relationships and you sit there listening and realizing that though their life is horrible, (and that they feel they have a need, nay a right) they demand that you must be going through the same thing. To allow themselves to concede that things could have gone any other way (other than badly at the wedding or after with the marriage) seems like it would destroy them. So they stake out their position on this subject and fight... I guess with themselves mostly.
Maybe some don't understand what I mean but it's sorta like this: imagine your parent always telling you that your girl/boy-friend will cheat because their husband/wife did. Using only that logic.
Ugh.
But lest you get the wrong idea, things are fine! I just find this interesting and post worthy. I like analysing motivations... ;)
posted by Sj @ 8/18/2006 05:04:00 PM
3 Comments:
At 20 August, 2006 16:00,
Krupo said…
As the token random stranger commmenting around here, congrats in advance... ;)
It's going to be super-nice at the Old Mill.
At 21 August, 2006 13:14,
Unknown said…
People feel the need to say something that they somehow have to be happy for you and feel guilty when they are not that happy.
ANyway congrats on the wedding (safest thing to say).
At 31 August, 2006 10:10,
Rean Day said…
SJ,
How exciting to be getting married. This summer/fall has been/will be a big wedding year for DH and I. There are so many people getting married that we know and love. It makes me remember our wedding day. It was so wonderful to have Rev. Karas marry us in our dear friends' home. I will have to post something from that day on my blog! "Memories, like the corners of my mind..." Thanks for jogging the memories out of the mist of everyday life!
As for the cliches...when you base you life on the Word and can filter the untruths and "good intentions" out with the pure Word, you can't go wrong and you can have great PEACE! *coming from someone who has a Wonderful marriage and abundance of peace to avoid being a cliche myself :)
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