Understanding (filter cont.)

Diogo
...in many cases you don't have the time or even the relationship with some people to request clarification...
Suzy
Sometimes you might have the time and the relationship but the you still cant put it across. Sometimes there is practically no way...
Heb. 5:12a(Contemporary English Version)
By now you should have been teachers, but once again you need to be taught the simplest things...

In no highschool kid way is this question meant. Have you ever wanted to know the honest truth of how you came across? Not asking someone simply "what do you think of me". But to know the how and therefore the why that you came across that certain way to them at that time? Of course really this is impossible for the most part. Like Suzy said, sometimes you have what Diogo longed for, what is necessary for this conversation to really start in earnest and yet still there is some seemingly "hidden" thought process that the other person cannot see that they are employing. Something that seems so clear to you to exist. I have known some that when pushed, sink inside a cave of quick (and easily noticed and deflected) denial. But once in that "cave" they will not be prodded to come out without attacking and sadly now the one who pushed believes that they were correct about their assumptions of hidden motives or thoughts. (Even if only hidden from the person showing them) And they are thinking the same thing really back. It gets almost scary as Diogo said earlier if you get what I am saying.

Edit: It's always good to keep Many times keeping it in your head that we are all learning. is good. As long as that isn't always a crutch to say to yourself that it's still the OTHER person who really needs to learn.

I went back and tried to expand what it was that I meant here in this post. To make sure I got across my current thoughts on this. And this isn't some insider conversation between friends nor technically speaking a reaction to something going on in my life. It's meant positively, its focus is for me and therefore also for others to grow. (Who want to of course...) Comments from others who have thought about these issues would be awesome. It's something I have spent some time in this life wondering about.